Session etiquette: payments & tips

[MixedFighter99]

I have never tipped, and always present an envelope right as I enter. But one thing I have done and some of you might find this foolish . . . several of my favorites who I had seen repeatedly jumped, without prompting, directly onto Richard, surprising the hell out of me!  Of course, this was a most welcomed and unexpected pleasure, and my response was to up my contribution the next time we scheduled.  And this tactic seemed to make FS a regular part of our landscape; perhaps my upping my contribution was unnecessary but given THAT kind of access seemed, to me, to merit an increase in the $$ amount, and in any event, I was happy to do it.  Keep in mind, this was a decade or more in the past when the median going rate was about $300.  Sessions have gotten so pricey and my regulars have mostly retired, that using the above strategy now seems less practical, but who knows??  In any event, as enter my dotage, and as my last breath escapes me, the joy they provided me will be of great comfort!   

Not at all especially since I done the same thing as if they open their menu open for more items during a session, I have brought a bigger tribute the next time back without her asking. Now I expect the menu to stay more open like it did the same last time and to be fair, that has always happened *knock on wood*. My experience it's a unspoken agreement between her and me the client. More services equals a bigger tribute which to me is completely and totally fair.

[MixedFighter99]

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[MixedFighter99]

Forgot Boselectah! In my experience saw at least 3 ladies who were either high or way old. I didn't feel safe. This was a long time ago so I gave all or part of the tribute immediately and got it of there.

I been lucky as I never been with a sessioniate whose been truly high. Feeling good after a couple cocktails but that is about it at least if they were high, they weren't showing it. About the worst I had was a few seem disinterested and I simply thank them afterwards and left it as a poor one and done except Maria Manic who for some reason I asked if could get her dinner since she was on the road and I was the last session of the night for her and it not only completely change the night around but our sessioniate/schmoe relationship as now she is one of my favorites.

And I been with older sessioniates but I knew that going in. I mean my first session was with Nancy Novak in 1999. I was 21. She was 52. But i asked around a bit on the boards of that time and all the old timers told me to pick someone older with a great pedigree and experience to guide me thru my first session with the consensus being Nancy be a great choice with one even vouching to Nancy for me even though I only knew him online.

It turn out to be the best and worst decision of my life since I have spent so much on sessions the past twenty five plus years I could buy a Lamborghini by now lol. But honestly? To me being a life long schmoe sessioner is much much much much better then owning a fancy car, even a Lamborghini.

[crazycrazy]

Before paying and proceeding, I pause for a brief moment to assess that she is sober, lucid and "as advertised". This can take me literally seconds or slightly longer if I feel there's something "off" about her or the venue. If I need a moment to think I hop about and sheepishly ask to have a quick piss in an urgent/pleading voice.

This has been my M.O, since a fairly shit meeting with a lady who was clearly high on something but I allowed myself to be drawn in by her calves and ignored the big red flags in front of me.

Lord knows what these envelopes are about? I count it out into her hand with a smile. Next time, I must remember to peek in the bin and count the envelopes and get a sense of the traffic she's handling.......

Envelopes are more classy. Think "What would Ron Bergundy do?" Usually the session provider will ask for an envelope to maintain the illusion that the exchange of money is secondary to the encounter.

Also, twice I've had sessions with women high on THC, one on edibles, the other smoking weed. Both were excellent sessions, they both went way over the time originally planned. But if the woman was high on meth or heroin it would be a different story.

[Boselectah]

Before paying and proceeding, I pause for a brief moment to assess that she is sober, lucid and "as advertised". This can take me literally seconds or slightly longer if I feel there's something "off" about her or the venue. If I need a moment to think I hop about and sheepishly ask to have a quick piss in an urgent/pleading voice.

This has been my M.O, since a fairly shit meeting with a lady who was clearly high on something but I allowed myself to be drawn in by her calves and ignored the big red flags in front of me.

Lord knows what these envelopes are about? I count it out into her hand with a smile. Next time, I must remember to peek in the bin and count the envelopes and get a sense of the traffic she's handling.......

Envelopes are more classy. Think "What would Ron Bergundy do?" Usually the session provider will ask for an envelope to maintain the illusion that the exchange of money is secondary to the encounter.

Also, twice I've had sessions with women high on THC, one on edibles, the other smoking weed. Both were excellent sessions, they both went way over the time originally planned. But if the woman was high on meth or heroin it would be a different story.

Must be an American thing due to fact paying for sex is illegal ovdr there? I'm assuming you don't pay your builder, electrician, gardener etc with cash stuffed envelopes? Anyway, Ron Burgundy is a clownish man-child - it's better to think "what would Jason Statham do"!

In all seriousness, I do feel gents should avoid skipping off to sessions all dreamy eyed and dizzy headed and adopt a more cautious level-headed approach to their situation and what they're encountering on arrival. Have an open mind and, if something isn't right, be prepared to stand your ground and calmly voice your concern and walk away if warranted.

Unfortunately, nowadays a man alone with a woman in a room can give rise to all manner of accusations and allegations - you really do have to be vigilant, aware and use your common sense in these scenarios. Ladies with impaired judgement due to drink, pills or drugs cannot give informed consent so you are in an incredibly risky situation if you proceed to get intimate with them.

Ultimately I don't believe that any genuine sessionette would have a problem with a man arriving with a measured professional non-rushed civil attitude to the opening preliminaries so I'd strongly advise taking a beat to think before you leap (and hand that wax sealed envelope over).

[crazycrazy]

Must be an American thing due to fact paying for sex is illegal ovdr there? I'm assuming you don't pay your builder, electrician, gardener etc with cash stuffed envelopes? Anyway, Ron Burgundy is a clownish man-child - it's better to think "what would Jason Statham do"!

In all seriousness, I do feel gents should avoid skipping off to sessions all dreamy eyed and dizzy headed and adopt a more cautious level-headed approach to their situation and what they're encountering on arrival. Have an open mind and, if something isn't right, be prepared to stand your ground and calmly voice your concern and walk away if warranted.

Unfortunately, nowadays a man alone with a woman in a room can give rise to all manner of accusations and allegations - you really do have to be vigilant, aware and use your common sense in these scenarios. Ladies with impaired judgement due to drink, pills or drugs cannot give informed consent so you are in an incredibly risky situation if you proceed to get intimate with them.

Ultimately I don't believe that any genuine sessionette would have a problem with a man arriving with a measured professional non-rushed civil attitude to the opening preliminaries so I'd strongly advise taking a beat to think before you leap (and hand that wax sealed envelope over).

I'll correct your first assumption: paying a service provider is not illegal in Canada, even if that person is a sex worker. Secondly, you don't seal the envelope, not with wax, and not with your saliva.

A third correction, I don't pay my gardener, chef, butler or chauffeur with cash. So the envelope would enclose a cheque.

[Prophaniti]

Wait hold on, you guys seriously pay them with envelopes of cash/cheques?

I have never done that

[boyofwinter]

Wait hold on, you guys seriously pay them with envelopes of cash/cheques?

I have never done that

So you send the full fee (pa*p*l or whatever) in advance?

[Prophaniti]

Not in a advance, i pay the rest while i'm in the room with them

[MixedFighter99]

Not in a advance, i pay the rest while i'm in the room with them

So you pay online via your phone or something in the room? Interesting. Again I always bring cash in an envelope. Never heard a complaint in all my years sessioning but I guess there is a first time for everything.

[FBBMW]

I have been sessioning since the 1990's and have always handed the SG cash and usually at the end. 

In the internet cash app years, deposits by cash app.  I guess you could also pay by cash app in the room, if SG is OK with it.

My sessions have always been with Physique/Bodybuilders, so maybe they are more relaxed and not needing any of the prissy dom stuff that
newer doms, wrestlers, etc, might be looking for.       

[Jbuzz]

Not in a advance, i pay the rest while i'm in the room with them

Likewise.
It's the easiest for me.
And to some extent, also for the lady.
(Certainly while traveling abroad)

[Jbuzz]

Ladies with impaired judgement due to drink, pills or drugs cannot give informed consent so you are in an incredibly risky situation if you proceed to get intimate with them.

Add to that, their sheer power they have,  certainly against me...

[outmuscled]

Regarding the being high thing, what are some of you guys afraid of!
Yes on the one hand if you're stone cold and she's high, them there might be an attitude mismatch,  but you and the sessionette are going into the session with very different feelings anyway, high or not.
And if a woman is high,  I just see it as there being more chance of her going a bit further than she might otherwise, though I would of course leave it up to her.

And did somebody say they felt less safe if the woman is old!!

[Bernie1212]

I've had four times I've seen girls who where high/intoxicated.  (That I knew of)

The first (not a session girls, but...yeah) was so messed up i left the first opening i had

The second was a girl I knew was a heavy cannabis user.  I had seen her a handful of times, she had invited me to her house for a session (something that was rare for her) but since she was home....I saw her take a strong edible, she was hitting a pen the entire time I was there, and also a joint she hit a few times.  Session was amazing.

The third we had already planned and we each took an edible at the beginning of our time, and got high together, it was pretty great.

Fourth was an amazing session I had.  I had a vibe she was off and even asked her at one point early on if she wanted to continue.  Session was out of this world.  The next time I saw her she admitted to taking shrooms before the previous time, but can attest she had an amazing time.

Additionally I know many...MANY women in this industry consume cannabis products on a regular basis (i can't blame them for having to deal with us) and I am sure are high for most of their sessions.  I've brought thc cartridges to sessions for women, I've given women edibles for their use, and just have gotten to know enough that...I just know.  It happen way more then most of ya'll would think.  Shoot if I go to a session, I half assume they're on something when I walk in the door.  Except for those that I know live the sober lifestyle. 

All that to say.  Having a session provider that is high, isn't necessarily the worst thing, and I'm guessing many of you have experienced a loaded provider whether you know it or not.

[clay99]

Before paying and proceeding, I pause for a brief moment to assess that she is sober, lucid and "as advertised". This can take me literally seconds or slightly longer if I feel there's something "off" about her or the venue. If I need a moment to think I hop about and sheepishly ask to have a quick piss in an urgent/pleading voice.

This has been my M.O, since a fairly shit meeting with a lady who was clearly high on something but I allowed myself to be drawn in by her calves and ignored the big red flags in front of me.

Lord knows what these envelopes are about? I count it out into her hand with a smile. Next time, I must remember to peek in the bin and count the envelopes and get a sense of the traffic she's handling.......

I saw a fbb who thought I was going to have a lot of fun with but when she took her clothes off the stench coming from her was horrific. Too late to back out lol