Not an experience I've had, other than a couple of people who suggested virtual sessions (which I declined). I agree if someone is just trying to extract as much money as possible I am out of there. No questions. Once I see a 2 minute video for $30, or the 4th PPV spam message of the day, it's not for me.
I do think for longer chats - and I don't know how long your messages went on for - you can't expect unlimited message replies. A $5 tip just to chat usually works wonders.
I do also only sub to non-free accounts. Maybe that's why I haven't had so much stuff pushed on me :shrug:
People are going to feel like $5 tip should be for every message... and it's going to be like those texting apps, where you're spending all this money per message, and they're spending 2 seconds to write "haha" while in line at the grocery store. People like Sydney and Nadia who turned off their free chat just ensured I wouldn't bother ordering customs from them anymore. Is it reasonable to send $5 to submit the custom request? Maybe. Am I going to get involved in something where I have to send them $5 reminders every time they don't meet the deadline they set, especially knowing OF support will say "lol try to contact them again, go away?" Nope. Yes, I realize I could order stuff off of OF, that's not really the point.
But so often when you buy *one* thing, it turns into constant almost begging for money. I asked dakotarose if she had such-and-such video. She didn't, but she had one thing she sent me for $30(?) which had some overlap... but really was a waste of $30 for me. Then she starts messaging me non-stop trying to get me to buy tons and tons of locked videos of things I had no interest in. I once ordered an extremely expensive custom from arielx, and it was good, but probably not worth the price. Anyway, she took a week (was still within her deadline she set, which is fine, but wasn't exactly quick). Anyway, when she finally sends it, she says "here's the video, and don't forget to smash that tip button if you like it." I spend an insane amount on a video (which, yes, I agreed to), and before I even watch one frame of it, I'm being asked for yet more money. It almost makes me not even want to watch it. Or another girl I mentioned previously who said she wasn't going to make the flexing clip I requested, but "how much would it be worth to you anyway?" and "you wanna buy this other thing you don't want?" Yikes.
But this works, which is why they do it. Get a bunch of suckers to buy "just one more clip for the price of a coffee" (ok, maybe a little more), and they get disappointed, but then decide to put their hand in the flame the next time a cheap clip comes their way. Even if you walk way, a bunch of guys will still buy stuff they're not necessarily quite into, and people respond to incentives. It works, so they don't bother stopping with this strategy.