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Offline Bugenhagen

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I'd also like to say, Flexomatic... you my people. Good luck with your BSW, player

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All good advice. Ill add one more thing. Dating and relationships are a skill. Its a shame society doesn't look at it this way and we are taught 'Oh some people are naturally good at this...' well some are the same way that a very few people could pick up a golf club and have some natural talent. But most people who excel at something do so because they continually practice.

Interpersonal relationships should be looked at the same way. If you want to have the life you want with the partner you want you need to put in the reps.

Even if that's garbage time. You can get some of this behind your keyboard, but not much. It's akin to someone reading about golf and not getting out on the course. It helps, but psyhical time in is 100x more effective.

The good thing about working on this skill is you can do it anywhere... with your family, friends... while you are waiting in line at the grocery store. Trust me... you may not be good at it but after a few years. Youll notice the changes. But the time you find the person your supposed to be youll be able to have the realtionship your supposed to have.

Good luck.

Offline t651

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Well while we're all discussing this.

In a hypothetical situation where one does end up with a competitive fbb/physique/figure/bikini gal.
What happens when they retire from the sport?  I mean it's a likely scenario they won't be in it forever.

Since its all about the physical to some respects, what would that mean for your attraction with her?
Would you then move on to the next model?

For me its more about the full package.  If they happened to be muscular, then bonus.
But it's more for everyone else in the audience.  What do you think you would do in this scenario?

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well hopefully you'd choose one that actually has some real life skills, someone who could get a normal job after. or even better yet, who has a normal job already and does the fitness stuff on the side. if it's just for the looks, you're better off doing a session or watching muscle porn than entering a relationship.

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I'd also like to say, Flexomatic... you my people. Good luck with your BSW, player

Thanks man! Your advice is also very helpful probably.

I have decided to come out everytime it's getting real - and even if sometimes it was a disappointment, sometimes it was the complete opposite, like my last relationship.
If a woman knows what turns you on, and if she really loves you, she would want to make you horny!
In our case: she will at least flex and want to be muscle-worshipped, maybe she will even work out once she realizes that coming from the gym all pumped up results in much better sex.
As I have documented in my thread - she might even get huge.
The only problem I have now: I'm quite spoiled, because I lived the dream. I can't expect other women to be as enthusiastic about being muscle worshipped.

As for dating in general:
It's an old sentence, but: BE YOURSELF, and be the best of it!
You will probably meet someone in your league, probably with some of the same problems you are having, but if you just dare to be open, you can actually work together to be the coolest couple everyone is jealous about - even if you are both average. People you thought were "in a higher league" will look up to you, just because you dare to be authentic, and they don't.

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I'd also like to say, Flexomatic... you my people. Good luck with your BSW, player

Thanks man! Your advice is also very helpful probably.

I have decided to come out everytime it's getting real - and even if sometimes it was a disappointment, sometimes it was the complete opposite, like my last relationship.
If a woman knows what turns you on, and if she really loves you, she would want to make you horny!
In our case: she will at least flex and want to be muscle-worshipped, maybe she will even work out once she realizes that coming from the gym all pumped up results in much better sex.
As I have documented in my thread - she might even get huge.
The only problem I have now: I'm quite spoiled, because I lived the dream. I can't expect other women to be as enthusiastic about being muscle worshipped.

As for dating in general:
It's an old sentence, but: BE YOURSELF, and be the best of it!
You will probably meet someone in your league, probably with some of the same problems you are having, but if you just dare to be open, you can actually work together to be the coolest couple everyone is jealous about - even if you are both average. People you thought were "in a higher league" will look up to you, just because you dare to be authentic, and they don't.


Yeah after living the dream, things can get pretty tough in the aftermath.

I'm very much trying to figure out how and why to incorporate my interests in an open and ethical way. Not just on the "I want my baby to lift heavy weights" kinda way, but also in the accepting and existing with my quirks rather than constantly trying to berate or destroy myself. This is typically for things like enjoying masturbation, thinking about other experiences with muscles during sex, being overbearing about my partialism and muscle obsession, or being almost entirely body focused.

I don't really see the point in worrying about what'll happen when I'm old. There are older muscular women and plenty of ways to enjoy ourselves outside of what we convince our lovers to do. Whether or not we build open enough relationships to having difficult conversations about sessions or polyamory, or even simple looking at other women to admire their muscular bodies. I'm reaching for those ways to feel at peace with the musclepreciation and move forward in love and acceptance with myself as well as my lovers and even writing songs where I talk about my attraction for like public consumption, and maybe doing stories soon.

Offline Dunerider304

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Hit the gym and get yourself jacked. Then get a "normal" girl into it. Think about the majority of interviews with FBBs you have heard. Most say that a former boyfriend or husband, that was also a bodybuilder, got them into it.

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Hit the gym and get yourself jacked. Then get a "normal" girl into it. Think about the majority of interviews with FBBs you have heard. Most say that a former boyfriend or husband, that was also a bodybuilder, got them into it.

I think this was my original plan in my early 20s, and I think it's one of the best ones too. But it took me another decade plus to realize I'm really not into working out and never will be.

Which brought my psychology around much sharper focus. In the past, I'd like to say "I'm a fan of bodybuilding (to myself obviously)" but it's not true. I only care about working out and lifting weights and the like as far as it makes a woman grow and become more attractive to me. Beyond that, there's little to no interest at all. Shit is rather baffling.

Still... it's a good plan, a great one really. Get into the gym, find a girl you can train up and after a few years, even if it doesn't work out, you'd be in the scene yourself and likely know all sorts of buff women.

However, if you're stunningly NOT into bodybuilding or working out and not looking to get started on any major level you'll likely just have to get mad confident and make it a point to seek out and talk to muscular women wherever you find them. But man... get swole. Good plan

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yeah... good point. I'm not quite like you. I do like working out. but being a bodybuilder is not who I am, or ever will be. I don't care to diet to the point of 10% BF or whatever, I don't care about isolating certain muscles in my workouts, I don't care about competitions or any of that.

So forget about getting jacked. Get into respectable shape, work on yourself, get a good job, build a good career, learn to talk to people. Being decent-looking and having a great job is better than working some shit job as a personal trainer or whatever, being jacked, and spending your whole life in the gym. May be hard to see that as 20-year-old.

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Whatever way the guy feels about himself there is no point dating or being with someone you don't wanna be with. I cant even recommend dating sites anymore Match.com & Love AOL used to be good, you,d find a Ruthie Luccessi or Heather Foster on a good day but the obvious now  is Fitness Singles where,ll you,ll probably get ads of  a shredded skinny whose  divorced with kids. Good luck  telling them youre a fbb shmoe admirer fan, No matter what lonely sob story their profile projects, all of a sudden their  lifes too full & you normies,ll never understand the lifestyle,NoT a Hobby,,  LiFeSTYLe, ITS A LIFESTYLE!!  At first you check  back every hour just in case but now, she advertised, you replied,, its up to her.

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I wonder how things are going for our wayward friend Jon the Giant?

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Hello, my name is Jonathan and I love muscular women.
Although I feel I have a bit of a specific taste, I like women who are kind of in between a fitness model and bodybuilder. Someone like Michelle Lin.

But thats beside the point, I've seen this site a few times but never got the courage to join let alone say something. Im actually extremely neverous while typing this, but im so sick of feeling like this.

The fact of the matter is, I'm lonely. To the point of actual depression. I've tried looking on dating apps or even just looking around my town and I haven't found anyone I'd want to date or anything because of my fetish. So I've finally got the nerve to get on a forum of fellow muscle worshippers hoping to find someone who can help me.

A little info about me if you care to know;
I'm 20 yrs old, I live in Lakeland, Florida, I'm 6'3, a bit on the fat side, a huge video game nerd, especially Nintendo games and have a Timmy Turner-esque overbite.

So yeah, not much of a Prince Charming. But I'm a kind and caring person. I just want someone who (as sappy as this sounds), I can cuddle with, play Smash bros, watch Game Grumps together (basically the only kind of show I watch as boring as thst sounds) , and who I can hold close while we sleep... and also a girl who can crush a watermelon with her thighs and abs that can break a wooden bat. I like to think there could be someone out there like that but i have yet to see anyone even close.

So please, if anyone can help me atleast find where I can look I would greatly apreciate it.

Either way thank you for taking the time to read this.

Tl;dr:
Hello, I'm Jonathan. Anyone here know how to find a buff girl in her 20's who is single?

P.S. Ive already thought about a gym but i have no money for a membership. Plus i dont think anyone would want a random stranger to walk up to them while they are working out being like "hey, you wanna hang out?"

Plus im just not that bold.

Have you tried Fitness Singles?  That’s got FBB on there

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You have nothing to offer. You want a girl in incredible shape, yet you aren't in good shape yourself. You also have no money to go to the gym, let alone take her out on dates. She will not go for you. You need to work on yourself first.

Cool, first time i try to reach out to others like me and Im just told what Ive told myself a thousand time while Im dealing with my depression. What your saying is true, and I get that. But there are probably nicer ways to put it than that.

Well this has been eye opening, clearly I've made a mistake.
I knew this was a bad idea from the start, and yet my impulse control issues got the best of me. But hey, hindsight is 20/20.

Funny, this is the perfect embodyment of the internet right here;
The kind of person who genuinely wants to help,
And the kind that just wants to tell you how stupid you are.

Well my courage has been stomped out. Ill just see myself out.

Thank you atleast to FBBMW for the friendly advice. Maybe i can try and follow it.

You know what women really hate? Self-pity.

You sound depressed. A woman won't solve your depression, you can only do that yourself. Until you love yourself, no woman will be interested in you.

Furthermore, you're not interesting. Get some hobbies, cultivate those, hit the gym. If you can't afford the gym, work out at home (don't injure yourself).

You should be thankful for getting advice, not whine about our choice of words. Stop being weak. Also one final hint: don't pay for your dates. If you pay for a woman, she will lose all respect for you, treat you like crap and cheat on you. You're either boss, or you're prey. Don't be prey.

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Dating older women
« Reply #28 on: January 18, 2020, 07:12:56 pm »
Hi wondering if any guys on here have had any luck with dating older women especially fbbs. I am in my mid 20s looking for women in their 40s, looking for something more than 1 night stand. Are there any good apps/websites where you can find older muscular ladies who are exclusively looking for younger guys?

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