How to date FBBs - Confessions Part 3

[expatmanager]

This long term relationship lasted a couple of years and gave me the full experience of being the partner of a FBB. Whilst at times exhilarating and fulfilling in many ways, it nevertheless led me to the conclusion that my future long term partner, whilst muscular and imposing, did not have to be a FBB.

How it started - Again we met through Facebook, after first seeing her on Forum Saradas. My main advantage in breaking the ice was that I was able to communicate in her language, which again was a different language altogether from the one in parts one and two of these confessions. Somehow we began by making funny conversation around a photo of her meeting with a foreign tourist, I was able to spark her interest. I ‘liked’ quite a few of her photos with the occasional positive comments. However, she was in a relationship at that time, and so I only made a few comments and it was just a platonic chat at first.

To my surprise, it was her who started saying things like she loves me, and sending romantic messages etc.. She brushed off my concerns that she was already in a relationship, but I played it cool until she was available for a new relationship.

When she was available, we arranged to meet in the capital city of her country, where I was planning to visit some old friends I knew from a youth exchange program, and do some business. I arranged for a three bedroom hotel suite and she would fly in from her regional city along with a friend to accompany her.

When I met her she was in good shape with broad shoulders, small visible biceps, sweeping thighs and nice flaring lats with a small waist. She was more of a bikini competitor size (minus the fake boobs), but it was obvious that she was dedicated towards growing muscle and that she had great potential.  She had a beautiful face and glowing golden skin.

She was a screaming tigress in the bedroom and I don’t know how her friend who accompanied her put up with our many hours making love. She wanted it long lasting, hard and she would show her appreciation with screams of ecstasy.  Fortunately I had discovered Cialus and treed it out on this trip. It gave me the stamina I needed to satisfy the tigress.

How it developed - These romantic few days led to a long term relationship over a couple of years. I accompanied (and sponsored) her to many contests in a few countries, all of which were eye opening experiences. She also grew bigger as a bodybuilder over the years, building a big back with her arms and shoulders swelling to an impressive size. After we broke up she hooked up with a champion male bodybuilder who introduced her to various chemical enhancements. I was not closed minded about these enhancements during our relationship, but at that time she was firmly in the ‘natural only’ camp of training and competition.

Mutual attraction - Over the years our interests aligned as we moved in together and found a new bodybuilding gym to train at, and we both enjoyed international travel together. I introduced her to a posing coach, to a competition suit specialist, advisors on supplements and bodybuilding competition officials. Thus I became useful to her as a bridge to the English speaking bodybuilding world and she in turn gave me legitimacy in being in that world as a non-competitor. Before we moved in, our love making on holiday rendezvous became more exciting as we both enjoyed her being on top flexing while I pumped upwards. This was new to her and she liked it.

Our interests also aligned as I developed an interest in physique photography. I would photograph her and I would also photograph at local bodybuilding competitions. That led to further contacts in the bodybuilding world as I set up a Facebook page featuring my photos. I didn’t ever sell any as I just wanted to make the photos available for the competitors. It was a further contact point for me with FBBs, in this case just as a photographer.

Lessons learned - I remember at one international competition where she was, in fact, the winner, that I felt a sense of hollowness. Here I was, surrounded by some of the champions that I fantasized over, and helping my girlfriend to win an international competition. I was backstage amongst it all, and wondering to myself ‘why is it that this is what I have dreamed of but it doesn’t feel good?’ I felt a couple of things. Firstly ‘do I belong?’ as a non-bodybuilder in a bodybuilders world. And ‘is this all worth it?’ in terms of the expensive lifestyle dedication of the athletes for brief moments of poorly reimbursed recognition before dwindling live audiences.

The first question was part of a bigger issue that led to our breakup which was the depth of our relationship beyond the sexual attraction and my support for her. We did have a lot going for us, but in the end, lack of her family acceptance of our religious differences drove her to delay our planned marriage indefinitely. I wanted marriage and kids sooner and she wasn’t ready, and so that drove us apart.

The second question of ‘is it all worth it?’ was one that eventually drove me away from the bodybuilding world. The fitness industry has expanded tremendously, and I find the world around me populated with regular gym members who take supplements and who eat regulated diets. This world is part of a significant expansion of business and career opportunities for bodybuilders, but when you are living with a bodybuilder, there are other costs that move the calculation of ‘worth’ in a negative direction. These costs include the reality that you have very limited options when you dine out, making the romantic dinner a rare luxury rather than a relationship building staple. Mealtimes at home are more likely to be standing at the kitchen counter fuelling up rather than the fun of sitting around the table sharing about what happened that day.

The factor that kills a lot of the joy, however, is that her training and sleep is so regulated, and my work was so taxing, that often our times of energy for sex did not align. In reality, she was often too tired to make love, and my powerful muscular companion was no longer the tigress in the bedroom that she was when we initially met on holidays. As a natural athlete, she didn’t have the sexual aggression from testosterone supplements. The daily grind within the all-consuming focus of her winning the next competition, sucked the sexual energy out of our relationship. Maybe it would be different if I was not working in a professionally demanding job, but the compatibility of an athlete in a relationship with a working professional can be challenging.

How it ended - So reluctantly we broke up. I remember looking through photos of our travel times together, wondering if I could indeed give up on such a beautiful and sexy fiancé. But eventually I had to admit, that our relationship wasn’t progressing towards my dream of marriage and kids, so I called it quits. I have seen her once afterwards and occasionally we are in touch, but we keep our distance and keep things platonic. She has had two boyfriends since, and they are both champion bodybuilders. I was the ‘normal guy’ break from her preference for bodybuilders, but I can honestly say that her preference for bodybuilders is more related to their mutual interests, than to anything else.

[expatmanager]

Comments are welcome. Thanks.

[MartinKohl]

This is a extremly interesting Report!
I love to read about your real life Expieriences!

[outmuscled]

It is a very interesting account, but do you mind if I ask you if any of your fbb partners were bigger than you, and if so, how this made both of you feel ?

Obviously it sounds like there was a strong chemistry and it worked for you in private, but the dynamics could change in public.

I think going backstage at a female bodybuilding contest like you did would be a dream come true for me and many of the guys on here, with all the pumped up women in bikinis, but if I was going out with one of them, I might also wonder if she felt self conscious that half the women in the room had more muscle than her man.

[expatmanager]

It is a very interesting account, but do you mind if I ask you if any of your fbb partners were bigger than you, and if so, how this made both of you feel ?

Obviously it sounds like there was a strong chemistry and it worked for you in private, but the dynamics could change in public.

I think going backstage at a female bodybuilding contest like you did would be a dream come true for me and many of the guys on here, with all the pumped up women in bikinis, but if I was going out with one of them, I might also wonder if she felt self conscious that half the women in the room had more muscle than her man.

Thanks for the questions. To be honest I would have loved it if my FBB partners were bigger than me but sadly this was not the case. The girl from this part 3 account could have bigger arms than i do now, as she has progressed whilst I think I may have regressed. For me I certainly told them that I would love it if they were bigger, and this girl from part 3 would have achieved that if she could. She was someone who had no limits on her size and said that Flex Wheeler size was her goal.

Good point about the chemistry in public. For this particular girl she saw herself as an athlete first and foremost, and she felt that she should naturally be bigger than people like me who were not athletes. She really could not care about public opinion and she actively tries to confront and change those who react negatively to muscular women. She also feels that many women secretly want to develop a muscular body, to the point that they would be bigger and stronger than their male partners. I know some reading this may snort in disbelief, but this is how she feels even to this day.

Backstage she was really in the zone of focussing on the competition, and she didn't seem that conscious of how I was compared to the women in the room. Her concern was more that I was assisting her where she needed it, and how she looked in relation to the competition.  I would say that many female bodybuilders have gone beyond caring what others think about their muscular physique in comparison to untrained men, as they have lived with the reality of their physical superiority for many years.

One thing I should say, is that I was surprised at the number of women who had no support person with them. I saw this even when I photographed at competitions. Whilst some women had a whole team of supporters decked out in supporter t-shirts, or they had their male bodybuilding partner or teammates or coach with them, many were solitary and were glad to talk and receive support from someone friendly like me and my girlfriend. I had the impression that there are some competitors, especially first timers, who pursued their goals as individuals, sometimes training at home or at a gym with little connection to the bodybuilding world. There's an opportunity for guys who are willing to support such female bodybuilders, before, during and after competition. Take some photos and approach them after the competition and offer to send them the photos. Some FBBs even approached me about this, and whilst I made contact after the day of the competition, I didn't pursue anything because I was already in a relationship at the time. All of that knowledge that you have acquired about the female bodybuilding world may have some use in helping you support your FBB girlfriend :-)

[expatmanager]

This is a extremly interesting Report!
I love to read about your real life Expieriences!

Thanks so much for your feedback. I have tried to be as honest as possible in these stories, as I really hope that some of you reading this will see your dreams fulfilled.

[MartinKohl]

Its interesting how popular the "stories about muscular women sightings" are compared to the real life reports of a FBB Boyfriend ....

[Arch Stanton]

Its interesting how popular the "stories about muscular women sightings" are compared to the real life reports of a FBB Boyfriend ....

Do you mean "similar" instead of "popular"?

[bicepboy]

Its interesting how popular the "stories about muscular women sightings" are compared to the real life reports of a FBB Boyfriend ....

Do you mean "similar" instead of "popular"?

Probably meant popular -- comparing the number of comments in that other thread with the few comments here. Not surprising though as many more can participate in that thread.

[Bugenhagen]

This is an awesome account, and definitely how I felt when I had a come to. Jesus moment of my own in regards to bodybuilding. I didn't date any fbbs, but recognized my own exasperation and boredom with the bodybuilding sport and lifestyle. Insta**** did it to me. So. Many similar poses and so little else. It kinda broke the fantasy for me. Plus I'd just had a terrible platonic relationship with a natural fbb end.

Anyway, I just really feel like I got a great deal out of this account and really appreciate it. Thanks!

[asapferg]

Being in a relationship with a regular woman can be difficult, but one with a fbb sounds taxing.

[bubba69]

Being in a relationship with a regular woman can be difficult, but one with a fbb sounds taxing.

Oh so true, but the unbelievable sex with a muscular woman tends to help relieve the stress of everyday taxing events. 

[expatmanager]

This is an awesome account, and definitely how I felt when I had a come to. Jesus moment of my own in regards to bodybuilding. I didn't date any fbbs, but recognized my own exasperation and boredom with the bodybuilding sport and lifestyle. Inst@gram did it to me. So. Many similar poses and so little else. It kinda broke the fantasy for me. Plus I'd just had a terrible platonic relationship with a natural fbb end.

Anyway, I just really feel like I got a great deal out of this account and really appreciate it. Thanks!

Thanks for the feedback. Interesting how you came to a similar conclusion. My partner now is naturally muscular and doesn't have to do anything to stay in shape.  I like it that way :-)

[expatmanager]

Being in a relationship with a regular woman can be difficult, but one with a fbb sounds taxing.

Oh so true, but the unbelievable sex with a muscular woman tends to help relieve the stress of everyday taxing events.

Yeah there is that too!  It makes life sweeter. Maybe it depends on how much of it you get 

[gokuman7]

I would like to know where to find a FBB, especially in Canada