It makes me angry to hear about all the guys who have been called,"gay," by idiots when they profess that they like muscular women. I dealt with that too. Why would we be gay ? Not "Gay" as in happy but "Gay" as in craving a man's dick? Makes no sense.
Now I've been married to a bodybuilder for years and NO ONE says that to me. Behind my back, I know people whisper, but it's only behind my back. I train too and most people are reluctant to take a chance saying anything negative, nevermind insulting me to my face. Last fall, at a neighbor's party, a visiting friend of theirs was gawking and talking to another neighbor of mine about how huge my wife was. He didn't realize I was behind him nearby. Instead of being a jerk, I listened, rather than try to surprise him and suppress the conversation. Really... he was a slight guy and my wife weighed about as much as he did. With her tank top on, her muscle and vascularity were very apparent to everyone and I could see how he might have been feeling inadequate. At this party were a number of fireman, policeman, myself and other guys too who were all way more fit than he was, which I think added to his feelings of"smallness". His wife was actually talking to my wife about working out and I think the admiration she was showing her at that moment also bothered him. The slight guy was saying something like,'"She has so much muscle, how could any man like that," when my neighbor who was with him realized I was nearby and she tried to change the subject. She looked panicked when she looked at me and she said,'Well, to each his own. Hi!"
I smiled wide and said,"Hi! Yea! To each his own!" Then he saw me and turned red, and realized I might have heard him. I could tell he was a intimidated and worried what was going to happen next . I wasn't going to be a stereotypical meathead and say something like,"Are you talking about my wife?" Stupid.
I let it ride. I just said,"T is pretty solid, isn't she?" "She's never short of new fans - like your wife! (who was laughing with my wife.)" Anyways, I let it go.
I think people don't know how to react. I think a lot of guys don't like muscular women - they just don't. That's OK. I think, though, that many find themsleves getting turned on and don't completely understand why. Then I think they worry about why they feel that way, and coupled with self-doubt about their own masculinity suddenly contrasted by a muscular woman, these guys tend immediately 'project'. It think there is latent fear to confront a muscular woman but it's easier to accuse guys like us, who are with them, that we must be abnormal or gay. Does that make sense?
I've never heard haters say anything to women (muscular). They won't say anything to another male bodybuilder either...but to a normal guy they'll look for "validation" to remove feelings of their own inadequacy and that includes putting down guys who like muscularity on women as gay or perverted.
My wish is that more guys be honest and not be as worried about what people think of our tastes. I think it diminishes the wrong notions about us and supports the women who train hard. Good thread.