Ok so I’ve thought long and hard and decided you are all right - it’s a bit meaningless without the detail. I’m stepping into this as nothing like this has ever happened to me before, and it hasn’t been easy to admit my humiliation and stupidity for putting myself in this position. For what was done to me when I reached out to help a fellow human being.
Yes - it was sessions. In addition to what I had already committed, she requested additional funds to cover sessions and webcam because too much of her sexuality had been violated. I took this extremely seriously, especially given the deeply personal nature of the request and how critically important it seemed to be for her. However, it was soon after securing this commitment that she cut me off, declaring things were “too personal” (wtf??), delivered in a deeply insulting fashion. Then she returned to sessions.
Now, I had also agreed to cover expenses for her two shows, including hotel rooms. Shows that she knew I was attending to support her. She used these hotel rooms to advertise sessions. I never had a problem with sessions until she told me what they were supposedly doing to her, so this was pure fraud and was also very distressing on an emotional level, since I really did believe that she was troubled by sessions. Not to mention the humiliation of actually being at those shows while my funds were being misused in this way.
I wanted to confront the issue but didn’t want to interfere with her pro card prep (yes, I was still putting her well being first). So I suggested to meet after the second show without saying why. She denied me that opportunity and instead used her coach to ambush me at the first show, revealing everything about our arrangement and declaring that she had only ever seen me as a schmoe, right there in front of him, despite how much I had done for her. Basically to get me to back off so I wouldn’t be able to bring her to task.
Later, when I did reach out again, she threatened to have me charged with aggravated harassment. This was the thanks I received for helping her get her pro card, and for agreeing to her request to break her out of a cycle of sexual violation. Never again.