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Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« on: October 16, 2020, 01:51:54 pm »
A TRIGGER WARNING: There will be some hard simping and cringe in the following content. You’ve been warned.

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‘2018’

I have so much I have been thinking about (like everyone) during this weird time currently.  But in this post, I want to talk about HBC and how it has transformed my life for the better.

Up until 2018, I had only engaged with strong beautiful women in a pornographic/objectified way. I am sure this is true (and still true) for many people with this kind of….inclination. When I say objectified, I mean you are only looking at photos, watching workout videos, watching some porn and reading comics and stories. I was in no way watching interviews with these women or had any opportunity to chat with them either. And please don’t misunderstand me, I am not saying I didn’t think of them as people, but how you think about someone might not necessarily reflect how you actually engage with them (if that makes any sense).

So 2018…..this year was a watershed year in many ways. I had just landed a new well-paying job in March. In May of that year, I had properly broken up with a long-term girlfriend who I had been with for 2 years (this is the longest relationship i have had in my life). I also happened to turn 30 that year.

It was in December 2018, after having been at the new job for some months, that I created an HBC account and started jumping into chat rooms. This was a whoooole new experience for me and I was definitely hooked. I was just throwing money at so many women (like king simp no doubt). All my initial chats were fairly raunchy in nature and pretty awesome. And then I started honing in on women I vibed with (for whatever reason) and my spending became more focussed. This is when things started to change for me [cue the sick puppy]

‘Dating’

Now, one thing you have to understand about me is I haven’t had that much relationship experience. The 2 year relationship like I mentioned before is my longest…..and we were living together. In that time we ended up fighting so much that in that last year of that relationship I did not have sex with her AT ALL. I kid you not. And I had no qualms about it. I didn’t want to even touch her. But post the breakup I was desperate to prove that I could be good in a relationship. That I could make a woman happy. That this last relationship was just a bad draft and in relationship 2.0 I'd know exactly what I want. So what do most guys do in this scenario? (today anyway) they get on dating apps. I was on them shits til about Oct 2019 (all the while also visiting HBC once or twice a month).

In that year, on those apps, I went on a handful of dates. But they lead nowhere. And they were honestly excruciating. I know I am not that old, but meeting someone new and having to explain your life story to them somehow is a pain in the ass. If they don’t get you, if you don’t click, and if you feel like you're forcing yourself to be with them, then (for me) it's NOT going to happen. I don’t think I would ever be able to just settle. I am at that age also that I feel no one I will meet now, will ever be closer than the people I would call friends. And I love my friends dearly. But I am also in my 30’s and feel like there is no woman in my life that needs me for anything on any level. I still seek that validation.

And I don’t want this to be misconstrued as some incel rant about ‘boohoo, women won’t fuck me’, etc. For me (as it is with some of you also) I am done trying to find any sexual gratification with vanilla women (referring to any woman who is not a strong beautiful woman). I have slept with all of 5 women in life (over the period of the last decade only), and they were all vanilla women [Where I am from we have a saying, “Sleeping with a skinny woman is like riding a bicycle with no tires”] So….as much as I found these vanilla women hot (like how anyone would think Angelina Jolie is hot) and as much as I cared for them, when it came down to sex, it would still take me a minimum of 2-3 hours to orgasm (which is not normal). No jokes. So it doesn’t matter how intimate I was with a vanilla woman, they would never be able to satisfy me sexually and that actually is more of a problem than I previously thought. With that as the case, any vanilla woman I am with would inevitably look for other partners.

Quick question. Does it itch anyones else’s ass that we have no better term to call ourselves other than ‘schmoes’?.....

‘HBC’

So now back to HBC. In December it will be coming up on 2 years since I have been an active member on the site. I definitely regret nothing but at the same time it has added a new dimension of wanting to my existence [cue sick puppy music again].

Being on this site, with a passion for these kind of women... it's probably the same feeling bodybuilders get when they earn their pro-card.

Anyway….having managed to keep to a regular monthly schedule I ended up settling on 4 women on the sight who I will be referring to as D, S, A and N. Currently, I will only chat with one of these 4 women at any one time. And when I do, yes, there is all the hot flexing etc, but I also learn so much about them. D does painting, is a phenomenal cook and has the cutest cat. S is a fashion designer and has the cutest sense of humour (the kinds of jokes she cracks). A loves music. N is super sassy and hilarious. They are all absolute sweethearts.

Another thing you must know about me is that I make music. And in the 2 years that I have been on HBC, I had two chats which resulted in songs that I wrote and released (it wasn’t something I intended). 2 songs! For a musician that is a BIG deal.

Then, in an effort to try to understand what it means to love fit women (I was planning a podcast episode), I also started listening to other podcasts, watching interviews and of course…..[drum rooooollll].....following them on inst@gram.

[This is when it starts getting a bit corny but I wouldn’t be writing this if I didn’t believe it]

Chatting with these women on HBC, learning about their stories and struggles in these myriad ways….it added a whole spiritual dimension to this thing.

‘For the love of a strong woman’

So this year - 2020 - I had planned to take a vacation in the US. I am based in Mumbai, India, and the main purpose of this trip was to meet friends, line up as many worship sessions as I could afford and hit as many music open mics as I could, wherever I was. I had finally saved up enough money. But of course covid came and put a damper on all that.

I was on the chat yesterday with S (which is the thing that sparked this whole post) talking about my scuppered plans. And I mentioned I had never had a session in my life. She was telling me that, in her experience, some guys who are doing it for the first time are so overwhelmed they even cry. I laughed initially but then I thought I have no idea. I am pretty sure If it were me….who am i kidding? I HAVE NO IDEA. But the mere possibility is enough to cause butterflies in my stomach.

My trip to America was meant to be my once-in-a-lifetime pilgrimage.

Now...I am not religious in any way. I was born into a christian family but my parents were liberal and I am pretty much what you would call an apatheist (Don’t worry my friends we are approaching the end of this long post…..) but I truly believe now that, for me, this thing is akin to what the sufi’s would call the ‘beloved’. I am sure I am not alone in thinking that I really wish this was a real religion with commandments and temples. And us priests would take care of the women of the temple. And the women of the temple would be everything. But maybe in another life and in another dimension.

But….I don’t want to sound too fanciful. The truth is any woman can get fit if they want to. So it isn’t out of the realm of possibility that you will marry a fit woman (but keep in mind you also have to be into fitness if you want ANY chance). I just know now more than ever, for me, this lifestyle is integral to sustaining a long-term relationship. And whatever I would call myself, I know that what it means to love a buff babe is an important part of actually experiencing something beloved.

There is so much in the last decade of my life I have achieved, that I am proud of. If you follow these women on inst@gram, they are constantly giving messages of positivity and self love to themselves and their sisterhood (not really for men). Sooooo many messages of self love. But for me, as much as I am proud of my work, for some reason it feels meaningless if I will never receive any validation from these women. Which is insane. And makes me feel pathetic. But to be clear, I do not hate myself for loving muscular women. I hate that I might never be able to prove that I am good enough to love them.

But HBC is the closest I will ever come. I am under no illusions about what the purpose of the site is, but it has given me much joy and perspective on why I love these women. And it has given me music. Now, all I can hope for is that I don’t drop dead before I get a chance to go to America.

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A lover asked his beloved,
Do you love yourself more
than you love me?
The beloved replied,
I have died to myself
and I live for you.   
I’ve disappeared from myself
and my attributes.
I am present only for you.
I have forgotten all my learning,
but from knowing you
I have become a scholar.
I have lost all my strength,             
but from your power
I am able.
If I love myself
I love you.
If I love you
I love myself.
I’m drenched
in the flood
which has yet to come
I’m tied up
in the prison
which has yet to exist
Not having played
the game of chess
I’m already the checkmate
Not having tasted
a single cup of your wine
I’m already drunk
Not having entered
the battlefield
I’m already wounded and slain
I no longer
know the difference
between image and reality
Like the shadow


I am And I am not

- Rumi


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So what do you think? Is this all to fanciful? I'm sure some of you here are probably with fit women (or are we all lonely schmucks?). What is your experience like?






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Re: Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« Reply #1 on: October 17, 2020, 07:45:48 am »
My apologies for reposting this poem. This is how I meant to post it (i forgot to flip it)

A lover asked [her] beloved,
Do you love yourself more
than you love me?
The beloved replied,
I have died to myself
and I live for you.   
I’ve disappeared from myself
and my attributes.
I am present only for you.
I have forgotten all my learning,
but from knowing you
I have become a scholar.
I have lost all my strength,             
but from your power
I am able.
If I love myself
I love you.
If I love you
I love myself.
I’m drenched
in the flood
which has yet to come
I’m tied up
in the prison
which has yet to exist
Not having played
the game of chess
I’m already the checkmate
Not having tasted
a single cup of your wine
I’m already drunk
Not having entered
the battlefield
I’m already wounded and slain
I no longer
know the difference
between image and reality
Like the shadow


I am And I am not

- Rumi

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Re: Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« Reply #2 on: October 26, 2020, 09:07:53 am »
One of these days you will have a session or twenty, and as you spend more time in close proximity to these women you will realize -- they're just women. They may look like goddesses, but a lot of them are really, really messed up. You may strike up a friendship with one or a few who are particularly nice. There's a rare chance you may fall in love. But what you're in love with now -- it's just a fantasy, mate.

Just keep your heart and your mind open. Someday a girl will appreciate you for you. If she is muscular, great; if she is not, don't hold back in appreciating what she does bring to the table. Take it easy and let things happen.
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Re: Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« Reply #3 on: October 27, 2020, 08:13:13 pm »
But HBC is the closest I will ever come. I am under no illusions about what the purpose of the site is, but it has given me much joy and perspective on why I love these women. And it has given me music. Now, all I can hope for is that I don’t drop dead before I get a chance to go to America.

So what do you think? Is this all to fanciful? I'm sure some of you here are probably with fit women (or are we all lonely schmucks?). What is your experience like?
Thank you so much for this AWESOME post. You may not realize it, but the vast majority of hosts on the site love hearing things like this. The feelings you have shared here provide validation for them.

I'm not fit myself, but I was previously married to a really strong, muscular (but uncoordinated hehe) woman who lifts 4-5 days/week. Although our marriage did not work out, we raised a beautiful child together and remain good friends. I am currently married to a strong, athletic woman who is a natural athlete and trains 4-5x/week. But that's not why I'm with her. She's intelligent, funny, sweet, loyal, and a great cook. Those are the traits that will be there long after her strength fades. So, there's definitely a partner for most everyone, but while living for the moment is fine, do not base your entire future happiness upon what a woman looks like today. Fantasies are awesome, and leaving fantasies in the fantasy realm means they will always be there for you.

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Re: Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« Reply #4 on: February 02, 2022, 05:50:51 pm »
Been away from saradas for quite some time, and happy to see this topic showing appreciation to herbicepscam

I love the fact that i can chat or have some virtual sessions with some of my favorite bodybuilders from all time.
Also, if you are respectful and honest, they are also the sweetest and perform amazingly :)

Thanks HBC and Herbiceps

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Re: Why I needed HBC (this is not an ad or paid promotion)
« Reply #5 on: February 09, 2022, 10:50:59 am »
that will remain adream for most shmoes in life ,and that can generate a really big disability in building up relatins with "mainstream"
woman..... above all what concerns physical attraction & sexuality

since they are still rare species  ,(if you donT live in venice beach)
not so what concerns emotional & intellectual attachment towars a potential partner,since in that field FBB are often as average as
"normal" women..............
but special is about FBB often their outstanding selfconfidence & dominant way ,which still not many  man can cope with !
although that a very attrcting thing,in my opinion...isn`t it  "" :funny:

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