Thanks OS! Appreciate the useful comment.
In parallel with my solicitation here, I have reached out to the sessionette who, disappointingly, since receiving my deposit has gone full ghost.
My POV is that she has lost nothing other than the time to send a few emails.
And, I suggested she refund me less $50, for any trouble.
My last message to her was that I would give her another 24 hrs, then feel compelled to at least warn others of this "surprise".
On my end, I completely recognize that any deposit should be considered gone once it is sent. And, of course, had I simply no-showed or given some last minute reason to not go forward, I would expect nothing back. But that is pretty much the opposite of what happened here. Within minutes of the deposit going through and getting wind that she would not be able to host, I asked for the deposit back. So, again, I'm at a loss to understand why she would think it was reasonable for her to keep it.
But, then, reasonable is not always in great supply in this world. I get it!
Thx again my good man; will keep y'all posted.
B