Do you consider Sessions with FBBs cheating?

[Duke69]

How about this test?  If your woman would consider it cheating than its cheating

[I like strong women]

How can it not be cheating if you feel the need to conceal it from your partner? My session experiences always included genital contact- with beautiful muscular women. I cheated and lied about it.
Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, perhaps whether you think you are cheating on your partner is all in your mind.
And we know how easy it is to be in denial.
 

[MixedFighter99]

Generally speaking I do think it's cheating in a much more milder sense (if it's stricting a session, if it becomes sexual then of course) but I also it just depends on the situation. I recently have been seeing a psychologist since I am approaching 40 and feel like I am not going to handle it well as I am worried I am about to embark on a bad middle life crisis among other things including I begun to see a woman and it is starting to get serious. Back on point I have open up about this part of my life and we dug into why I enjoy this so much. As I look back on everything, I am starting to suspect being bullied by a girl when I was in junior high is what started this all. And when I mean bullied, I mean BULLIED. Forget the usual stuff of making me give her money, making me due her homework, pushing me when I wasn't ready, the girl would literally grope me in class as we sat next to each other. She grab my leg squeezing it HARD, pinch my sides, run her fingertips down her towards my crotch etc. My shrink asked me why did I tell anyone or perhaps try to push her away forcefully (I was bigger). I think it was because I enjoy it....A LOT. Didn't know it at the time and it became a surpressed memory but yeah looking back on it I enjoy the hell out of it especially since she was a athlete.

What has to do with cheating? Well for me sessions help me deal those surpressed memories in a safe and healthy environment as they become therapeutic in nature. As I mention before, only on a couple times has my sessions ever got truly sexual and quite frankly it's been years since that happen and very well likely never happen again. I begun to slowly show this side to the woman I am currently seeing and she has taken it very well so far as she run for the hills so far. She seems open minded and knows I have a session coming in soon and is fine with it as I book it before we started to see each other. I think she wants to maybe see it for herself one day so she can make up her mind truly. She is at least of me continuing with it as we get more serious but I do think I need to cut back my number of sessions as I now have more expenses now.....namely her LOL!

[larky368]

I would be very careful about this concept of suppressed memory. Did you recover this memory of bullying through hypnosis? If so then it could have been a pseudomemory planted by the analyst. The famous case of Sybil's multiple personalities is an example of gross negligence in my opinion. It made for a great movie starring Sally Field but it was absolutely ridiculous that the mind could harbor so many secret identities and suppressed memories.
Even if it did happen you said yourself that you allowed it to continue because it turned you on so you had this fetish before the bullying. Everyone here can identify the first instance where they discovered they had a fetish for strong muscular or dominant women.

[MixedFighter99]

Not through hypnosis no and I wouldn't say they were truly surpassed since I alwsys remember them just never put tied my crazy twisted fetish life getting its beginning with being bullied by a blonde girl in junior high.

[xerxes]

Great post and a great read - I offer FULLY confidential sessions, what goes on in my sessions stays within my sessions

Kinda like Vegas?

[ThirdRedeemer]

Uh... Yeah. Don't fool yourself.
Is cheating

[MixedFighter99]

Uh... Yeah. Don't fool yourself.
Is cheating

For the most part I agree. But as the one I am currently seeing said, there could be a lot worst things you could be doing. Then again I am not in it for the sex really even though I been at this for over seventeen years plus now.

[ji_scott]

I don't because there's no intimate sexual contact.  The wife does.  She wins.

[realun]

is thinking about sessions and checking sites like saradas or the wrestling travel sites w/o actually having a session cheating?

[artax]

ask your wife or your girlfriend if its cheating-  that will give you your answer

[outmuscled]

If it's just looking at pictures or getting your rocks off visiting sites like this, then it's certainly not cheating, it's just porn and most partners accept such material is out there and is used for sexual arousal.
They might even hope to be the beneficiary of any resulting excitement, but obviously the difficulty with this type of porn is that it would raise serious questions in a girlfriend's head about how sexually compatible you really are.

So no it's not cheating unless you actually meet up with a sessionette and that is clearly a very sexual encounter, even if no sex or release transpires.

However, it's such an unconventional fetish, that I'm not sure cheating is even the right word, though a partner who found out would feel deceived at best and wonder who she was really with and what he really wanted.
Cheating is if she finds you with another woman whom she regarded as one of her sexual peers and competitors, ie roughly similiar to her or somebody more attractive whom she would be jealous of.
But an fbb is such a completely different type of sexual partner, and so unlike the body and lifestyle that most women aspire to, that I'm not sure they would see her as a direct competitor. Rather their focus would be on what it says about your desires and the sexual connection they thought they had with you. The fbb would just be the agent of this revelation.

Just imagine the scene if your girlfriend/wife walked in on you, and the difference in her reaction to whether you were shagging a slim pert blonde, or if it looked at first glance that you were getting humped by a bulging muscle man.
There would be no way back in the former situation, but in the latter case, once your partner realised (if she hung around long enough!) that the owner of those huge thighs, dense glutes, broad muscular back and shoulders and big strong arms was actually a girl, she would probably be more shocked and confused than angry and might even try to understand how you two could get past this.

Some relationships are more mature and broadminded than others about accepting that you both have kinks and desires that don't completely correspond with what the other can offer, and while few women would accept an open relationship, they might try to channel those kinks into your own love life if the rest of the relationship was healthy.
Unless your wife/girlfriend has any dominant tendencies however, seeing her man emasculated by a woman who effectively looked more masculine than him would also be a hard thing to get past, in terms of how she regarded her man.

[lagoon95]

Sessions are 100% cheating unless you’re in a previously agreed upon open relationship with your S/O. Anything to the contrary is just you trying to rationalize it so you don’t feel bad about yourself. The real question is if that one to two hour intensely but solely physical relationship with a sessionette every few months worth jeopardizing a much more complete relationship with someone you care about beyond their body. And if the answer is yes then you should reevaluate your relationship and probably cut things off to save you and your partner more heartache down the line

[richmann]

So, here's a moral twist to the question.

If do a session it is considered cheating. But, if she provides a session, is it also cheating.

[bruce321]

So, here's a moral twist to the question.

If do a session it is considered cheating. But, if she provides a session, is it also cheating.

You're postulating that she's your significant other? Is she doing it behind your back? Then I would say that's cheating, because she knows you aren't OK with it. She's got your permission? Still not out of the woods. Depends if she's stopping with whatever limits you've agreed upon.