Forum Saradas
Private Sessions => Talking about sessionettes => Topic started by: Drbench012 on July 14, 2017, 08:52:15 pm
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To the married members or ones in serious relationships, do you consider going on a session being unfaithful? Do you tell your wives/girlfriends when you're going to meet an FBB?
To the single guys would you stop going on sessions if you got into a serious relationship?
Extras or innocent wrestling/worship does it make a difference?
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Yes, or course it's cheating.
That's why I haven't done a session since I got married.
I will let women feel MY biceps, though...
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I think whether or not it's cheating depends on a number of factors.
Your intentions.
The nature of your relationship with your spouse.
What happens at the session.
And maybe most importantly, if you have to question whether or not it's cheating, then it's probably cheating.
We know what we're doing. Or not doing. Or doing all the time. ;)
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I don't, but my wife does. Wife wins.
Every relationship has its own rules.
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Well I'm single and partake of sessions, but I've always been 100% open since starting them, family, friends, and work colleagues.
All of them know of my love for muscular women and that I travel for and pay to spend time with them!
I don't go around preaching it, but I'm not ashamed of it and see no reason for it to be a secret.
If I were in a relationship with some one, they would also know or my preference and yes I would consider seeing some one else for sessions as cheating on them,
irrespective of what type of session it might be. I don't see an argument for this not being the case, while I understand some may be a little embarrassed at
what ever their fetish may be, it's not like you are playing a game of tennis with them. if you need to do it in private with them you are hiding it from your partner
and if it was completely innocent then you would not need to do so!
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I am a married man and as much as I internally try and rationalize that what happens in sessions is separate from my day to day life, at the end of the day I know it is cheating. I would never run off or see any of these women outside the confines of the hotel room, but I am also not doing this for the wrestling/beatdown aspect. I am strictly muscle worship and, more often than not, that turns intimate in one form or another. I would never consider telling my wife any of this. And she doesn't know of my muscle women fetish at all.
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Wow the last two comments were the most polarizing.
@slave1 I understand telling your friends and loved ones about your interest in muscular women, but I'm surprised you even share sessions with coworkers. That's amazingly open. How do these conversations go?
@gymguy517 If you don't mind me asking how long have you been married?
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Agreed! A few of my friends know that I find muscular women attractive, but I can't imagine being that open about the fetish.
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Married 5 years, with the girl 8 years. My first session was back in 2004.
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If you have to ask that question, then you already know the answer.
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It all depends on how you look at it... if you're married then... Yes, yes it is, because you're cheating. If you're single, divorced, etc... not really. It all depends on your moral compass. ;)
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I don't, but my wife does. Wife wins.
Every relationship has its own rules.
Perfect answer. If your SO would consider it cheating, it's cheating. Proceed with caution.
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IS Having a potentially [sexually] stimulating "date" with another person - not your spouse - Cheating? You bet!
Are "sessions" like prostitution? Well, in some jurisdictions - e.g. in the USA - the local constabulary would certainly take a dim view of, let's say, a man meeting a woman in some venue, where one or more of the pair remove clothing, have - more or less - some skin touching -, and money is transferred to the woman. If discovered, The couple would be invited to join the aforementioned polizei at their HQ for an extended discussion of the alleged tryst. As to whether the couple's genitals were 'involved," is either assumed, or notwithstanding. :what:
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If you are in a relationship with another girl and you pay another woman to spend time fulfilling your muscle fantasies regardless of what that entails of course its f*cking cheating lol. Its up to you how you deal with it but lets not start pretending otherwise. If your significant other is aware and is ok with you doing activities like sessions its still cheating....its just she is cool with an open relationship. Just don't get bent out of shape when she decides to fuck the young hot guy at work on the office night out. If you are single you have not committed to another so you can do what the f*ck you like!
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it`s not a problem f at all for me to hide my extra- passion ....
I`m living in a long -term relationship since 18 years ,and at same time regulary frequenting sessions since 14 years
I`m not morally embarressed by that ,but would never admit it openly to my wife (she already suspects my passion
for muscular women,but doesn`t know of sessions :I pretend to go to a concert,an exposition or to have
abusiness meeting ,so that`s it !!....)
I think it`s not cheating ,because think it`s an other level of admiration ,there is the level of love in soul ,and other more physical attraction (and also several attraction for several for several body types ,no problem for me:)
-men often can split their inclinations in "drawers"..
so my wife is in fully contrast more the petite ,sweet type of woman
She is quite understanding ,for the sometimes a bit strange "special" inclinations of some men
(she is pychologist ...)
and think that our relation would survive a "coming out" !??...
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you can tell a lie to another or to yourself-- in either case it is a lie. In act anyone to does one is likely to do the other. If you lie to your significant other- are you cheating? Get real- we all know the answer.
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If you are in a exclusive relationship it is cheating unless your spouse knows about it and is fine with it.
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Hmm, yeah. It all depends on what your partner says. Obviously, I think it would be cheating unless it was webcam sessions.
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it is cheating if you're significant other doesn't know about and/or doesn't approve of it. My girlfriend has known about my love for muscular women since before we even started dating. In fact she was the first person I ever told about it. going into to the relationship she knew about it and has done her best to please me by going to gym more and flexing for me while we are being intimate. she has made some progress but there have been many setbacks and while she is more muscular now than when I met her it is not significantly so. About a year ago I finally worked up the courage to ask her if I could do sessions with Female Bodybuilders, basically saying that I loved her very much and I had no intentions of breaking up with her but this is an itch that needs scratching. She wasn't thrilled of course but after some thinking on it she agreed to it. now unfortunately i'm not a rich man, i'm in college living with my parents, so I haven't actually had the opportunity to book any sessions, but she knows I want to do it and i have her approval if the opportunity arises. My point is that if she said no that would've been end of discussion. If I decided to go behind her back and do one anyway that would have absolutely been cheating. when getting into a relationship with someone you essentially sign a contract that stipulates what being in a relationship with that person entails. what that agreement is differs from person to person. some couples agree that they can have sex with other people as long as they're honest with each other about who they are sleeping with and don't start actually dating the other people behind each others backs. most couples are 100% monogamous 24/7. it's all about what the conditions of your relationship with your significant other are. if your significant other doesn't know and/or doesn't approve of sessions with female bodybuilders, then you are cheating.
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Great post and a great read - I offer FULLY confidential sessions, what goes on in my sessions stays within my sessions :)
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I love how in depth these answers are. Karma all around. Lets put a spin on it.
Hypothetically:
You're seriously dating/ married to an athlete for years. One day she decides that she would like to go on tour and do sessions. The two of you don't necessarily need the money. She's asking if you're ok with it. Would you be opposed?
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I love how in depth these answers are. Karma all around. Lets put a spin on it.
Hypothetically:
You're seriously dating/ married to an athlete for years. One day she decides that she would like to go on tour and do sessions. The two of you don't necessarily need the money. She's asking if you're ok with it. Would you be opposed?
Yes. That's one of the reasons I've passed on sessions with married athletes.
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Someone may have said this already but look at it from the other side. If your wife/girlfriend wanted to spend an hour in a hotel room with a 220lb male bodybuilder, would that be OK? I'm guessing the average guy does not always live up to an average woman's fantasy. She might want to go somewhere else to get something her man can't or won't give her.
But I will also say again that when a woman gives a guy money to go into a hotel room with her, I don't think there is any pretense to what is going to happen.
Or do women pay to have a big muscle guy lift and carry them around for an hour while she rubs her hands all over him?? ???
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A women into muscle wouldn't have to pay for it like a guy into muscle does!
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A women into muscle wouldn't have to pay for it like a guy into muscle does!
HA! You wouldn't think so, no, but hey you never know.
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A women into muscle wouldn't have to pay for it like a guy into muscle does!
HA! You wouldn't think so, no, but hey you never know.
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She might if she does not feel like putting on an act. She can go to a bar or gym and find what she wants. But going to a gigolo gives her exactly what she wants. A MBB tell her she is queen of the world. Or she might want him to look like a guy off the cover of a romance novel. A guy who will look *and* play the part she wants. The fastest and maybe easiest way to get that "itch scratched" is with money
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What matters is wether your SO considers it cheating.
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I think that there is a deeper question. I'm my marriage, we've agreed never to be behind a closed door with a member of the opposite sex. Pretty clear cut. That being said, I think those of us in America live with a very traditional and not always healthy view of marriage and it's rules. If you have a session, then go home and give your wife the best sex she's had in a year as your think of your muscular dalliance, was this good or bad for your marriage? Will you be crushed by guilt and confess to your wife in a blubbering mess? Will you instead keep this in an appropriate place where it enhances your marriage because your wife is not forced to know? Do you think that she looks at the pool boy and has less than pure thoughts? Does it really bother you if she does? We are mammals. Marriage is not natural. That being said, I love being married and I don't go behind closed doors with another woman. I also don't judge those who choose to. Just be ready and keep it in its place.
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I agree with 87fg. I haven't done any sessions yet but have seriously considered it over the yrs & after a great deal of thought, have come to the conclusion that it really depends on what your fetish is. But for the most part, I also don't consider it cheating unless you are doing something overtly sexual. And let's face it. Most guys don't have g/f's or wives who are built like the women we come here to admire. Our better half's also aren't capable of doing what those women do either. Try asking your g/f if she wants to lift and carry your 200 pound body around & see what reaction you get. More than likely she'll say no & maybe even think that you're a few fries short of a happy meal. So for some men, this is the only way to bee truly fulfilled or "scratch that itch" as one other commenter said.
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If you engage in an activity that you need to keep a secret because it may result in a breakup then it must be considered cheating. We are all entitled to have our fetishes and fantasies. Women don't have the right to get the answer to that dreaded question "What are you thinking about?" We can fantasize while having sex with our SO or playing with ourselves. Nothing wrong so far but when we act out our fantasies we are getting some sort of sexual satisfaction from another woman. Getting a lap dance in a strip club is not an overt sex act but it is sexual. Calling a sex hotline is a sexual act and paying a woman to spend an hour in a hotel room to do anything other than play scrabble will be viewed for what it is - a sexual liason.
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How about this test? If your woman would consider it cheating than its cheating
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How can it not be cheating if you feel the need to conceal it from your partner? My session experiences always included genital contact- with beautiful muscular women. I cheated and lied about it.
Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder, perhaps whether you think you are cheating on your partner is all in your mind.
And we know how easy it is to be in denial.
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Generally speaking I do think it's cheating in a much more milder sense (if it's stricting a session, if it becomes sexual then of course) but I also it just depends on the situation. I recently have been seeing a psychologist since I am approaching 40 and feel like I am not going to handle it well as I am worried I am about to embark on a bad middle life crisis among other things including I begun to see a woman and it is starting to get serious. Back on point I have open up about this part of my life and we dug into why I enjoy this so much. As I look back on everything, I am starting to suspect being bullied by a girl when I was in junior high is what started this all. And when I mean bullied, I mean BULLIED. Forget the usual stuff of making me give her money, making me due her homework, pushing me when I wasn't ready, the girl would literally grope me in class as we sat next to each other. She grab my leg squeezing it HARD, pinch my sides, run her fingertips down her towards my crotch etc. My shrink asked me why did I tell anyone or perhaps try to push her away forcefully (I was bigger). I think it was because I enjoy it....A LOT. Didn't know it at the time and it became a surpressed memory but yeah looking back on it I enjoy the hell out of it especially since she was a athlete.
What has to do with cheating? Well for me sessions help me deal those surpressed memories in a safe and healthy environment as they become therapeutic in nature. As I mention before, only on a couple times has my sessions ever got truly sexual and quite frankly it's been years since that happen and very well likely never happen again. I begun to slowly show this side to the woman I am currently seeing and she has taken it very well so far as she run for the hills so far. She seems open minded and knows I have a session coming in soon and is fine with it as I book it before we started to see each other. I think she wants to maybe see it for herself one day so she can make up her mind truly. She is at least of me continuing with it as we get more serious but I do think I need to cut back my number of sessions as I now have more expenses now.....namely her LOL!
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I would be very careful about this concept of suppressed memory. Did you recover this memory of bullying through hypnosis? If so then it could have been a pseudomemory planted by the analyst. The famous case of Sybil's multiple personalities is an example of gross negligence in my opinion. It made for a great movie starring Sally Field but it was absolutely ridiculous that the mind could harbor so many secret identities and suppressed memories.
Even if it did happen you said yourself that you allowed it to continue because it turned you on so you had this fetish before the bullying. Everyone here can identify the first instance where they discovered they had a fetish for strong muscular or dominant women.
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Not through hypnosis no and I wouldn't say they were truly surpassed since I alwsys remember them just never put tied my crazy twisted fetish life getting its beginning with being bullied by a blonde girl in junior high.
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Great post and a great read - I offer FULLY confidential sessions, what goes on in my sessions stays within my sessions :)
Kinda like Vegas?
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Uh... Yeah. :-[ Don't fool yourself.
Is cheating
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Uh... Yeah. :-[ Don't fool yourself.
Is cheating
For the most part I agree. But as the one I am currently seeing said, there could be a lot worst things you could be doing. Then again I am not in it for the sex really even though I been at this for over seventeen years plus now.
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I don't because there's no intimate sexual contact. The wife does. She wins.
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is thinking about sessions and checking sites like saradas or the wrestling travel sites w/o actually having a session cheating?
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ask your wife or your girlfriend if its cheating- that will give you your answer
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If it's just looking at pictures or getting your rocks off visiting sites like this, then it's certainly not cheating, it's just porn and most partners accept such material is out there and is used for sexual arousal.
They might even hope to be the beneficiary of any resulting excitement, but obviously the difficulty with this type of porn is that it would raise serious questions in a girlfriend's head about how sexually compatible you really are.
So no it's not cheating unless you actually meet up with a sessionette and that is clearly a very sexual encounter, even if no sex or release transpires.
However, it's such an unconventional fetish, that I'm not sure cheating is even the right word, though a partner who found out would feel deceived at best and wonder who she was really with and what he really wanted.
Cheating is if she finds you with another woman whom she regarded as one of her sexual peers and competitors, ie roughly similiar to her or somebody more attractive whom she would be jealous of.
But an fbb is such a completely different type of sexual partner, and so unlike the body and lifestyle that most women aspire to, that I'm not sure they would see her as a direct competitor. Rather their focus would be on what it says about your desires and the sexual connection they thought they had with you. The fbb would just be the agent of this revelation.
Just imagine the scene if your girlfriend/wife walked in on you, and the difference in her reaction to whether you were shagging a slim pert blonde, or if it looked at first glance that you were getting humped by a bulging muscle man.
There would be no way back in the former situation, but in the latter case, once your partner realised (if she hung around long enough!) that the owner of those huge thighs, dense glutes, broad muscular back and shoulders and big strong arms was actually a girl, she would probably be more shocked and confused than angry and might even try to understand how you two could get past this.
Some relationships are more mature and broadminded than others about accepting that you both have kinks and desires that don't completely correspond with what the other can offer, and while few women would accept an open relationship, they might try to channel those kinks into your own love life if the rest of the relationship was healthy.
Unless your wife/girlfriend has any dominant tendencies however, seeing her man emasculated by a woman who effectively looked more masculine than him would also be a hard thing to get past, in terms of how she regarded her man.
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Sessions are 100% cheating unless you’re in a previously agreed upon open relationship with your S/O. Anything to the contrary is just you trying to rationalize it so you don’t feel bad about yourself. The real question is if that one to two hour intensely but solely physical relationship with a sessionette every few months worth jeopardizing a much more complete relationship with someone you care about beyond their body. And if the answer is yes then you should reevaluate your relationship and probably cut things off to save you and your partner more heartache down the line
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So, here's a moral twist to the question.
If do a session it is considered cheating. But, if she provides a session, is it also cheating.
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So, here's a moral twist to the question.
If do a session it is considered cheating. But, if she provides a session, is it also cheating.
You're postulating that she's your significant other? Is she doing it behind your back? Then I would say that's cheating, because she knows you aren't OK with it. She's got your permission? Still not out of the woods. Depends if she's stopping with whatever limits you've agreed upon.
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Just like anything in life, there is some greyness to everything and in our little fetish does have that. I have begun to let the young woman I am seeing peak into this side of me more and more. And incredibly so far she has not run for the hills but also is taken her by surprise it as we move along. Recently we were laying in bed and we both admitted that some mornings we like to lay in bed and look at pictures of people we are really attracted to help us "get going" before work. We both grab our phones and shared one person we recently look at. She showed me a tumblr of Scott Eastwood. I showed her some photos of Colette Nelson. She admitted that she was taken aback by it even though I told her for awhile about this including the basics of what sessioning is (she knows that I have done it in the past and am seeing someone later this month) and took her really a couple days to come to terms with it because it goes beyond just being a fantasy. It truly is part of me which takes her again by surprise because I really am not your typical submissive guy in pretty much every single way possible including in a relationship. And yet I totally get my kicks by being overpowered by strong dominate women and have a huge fetish for women with a bit (or a lot) of muscle.
You can say that ultimately you just need to do ditch your "fantasy" for a woman you love but it's not that easy. If you do that you will be miserable since you will be living a lie perhaps and risk ultimately searching that out in worst destrucive ways then sessioning. And the idea that women who are strong/dominate wind up with "schmoes" like us is basically slim to none. Alpha females are attracted to alpha males by and large. Julie "Squeeze" Ginger recently got married to someone who is regularly built (though that does not make him a schome either) but that is again a rarity. Plus Julie has always kinda gone down her own path with this and really is kinda different to many sessioners (nothing wrong with that at all btw, just different). Therefore finding the right balance with this all is extrmely hard if not impossible.
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Rule of thumb: If you even feel the need to ask the question, it's cheating. You're just trying to rationalize why you're cheating.
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Rule of thumb: If you even feel the need to ask the question, it's cheating. You're just trying to rationalize why you're cheating.
Thank you. Of course. You are in a hotel room (usually) with a woman who is not your wife or significant other, who you have a great attraction... whether it is a fetish or outright sexual feelings. And you are paying money, that if your wife or significant other ever found out about it, would kill you... or worse. Yes. Cheating. You can go through all the “just physical” or “I just had to meet her in person” or “It wasn’t emotional” or worse still, “We didn’t have intercourse,” but, yes, it is cheating. I’m not holier than thou. Been there and did it. Not proud of it... but such is life.
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I don't, I've never hid that I do them and I've occasionally brought whoever I was dating at the time to watch or even join in the session. I think 2 ladies over the years requested I not do sessions and I held to that for the duration.
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Seeing as majority of my sessions lately include sexual activities and other activities that aren’t explicitly sexual like kissing on lips, hugs, cuddles, dates (dinner, movies, drinks etc) holding hands etc yeah its cheating.
Sexual or not. It is cheating. FOR SURE
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For those in a relationship or marriage, how is it partaking in sessions? Regardless of the type (e.g., competitive, muscle worship, or sensual), it involves meeting up with another woman. So, is it a sense of uneasiness, instant guilt after the session, or nothing adverse at all? Or, is it a case where your significant other knows and doesn't mind; I know a few session women who had a significant other that knew.
I'm still in my 20s (27), but I remember declining a session from a session woman who contacted me for another meetup because I was engaging in a relationship at the time.
Not here to pass judgment, only looking to read experiences and perspectives.
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It's part of my secret life. Whether I am engaged or not, it's the same. I keep on doing sessions and it's my absolute "secret garden".
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I think that there is a deeper question. I'm my marriage, we've agreed never to be behind a closed door with a member of the opposite sex. Pretty clear cut. That being said, I think those of us in America live with a very traditional and not always healthy view of marriage and it's rules. If you have a session, then go home and give your wife the best sex she's had in a year as your think of your muscular dalliance, was this good or bad for your marriage? Will you be crushed by guilt and confess to your wife in a blubbering mess? Will you instead keep this in an appropriate place where it enhances your marriage because your wife is not forced to know? Do you think that she looks at the pool boy and has less than pure thoughts? Does it really bother you if she does? We are mammals. Marriage is not natural. That being said, I love being married and I don't go behind closed doors with another woman. I also don't judge those who choose to. Just be ready and keep it in its place.
I have sessioned for the last nine years. I was happily married during that time until my wife passed away unexpectedly. I totally agree that what I was doing was cheating. But I think the other consideration in this discussion is whether it has a positive or negative effect on the marriage. In my case my wife never new I was doing sessions, but she did know of my wrestling fetish very early on in our relationship. She was not at all interested in wrestling with me and made it clear she wasn't going to play along. For years we had a great sex life but purely traditional. But I always was left feeling disappointed and frustrated. Over time the frustration got worse as I felt I was missing out on something that was very important to me. I was alway loyal and loving but frustrated.
When I finally decided to try sessions, it was a huge breath of fresh air for me in our marriage, because I no longer felt bothered by what my wife wouldn't accommodate. I was able to appreciate the love that she was willing to offer without having that nagging feeling of what she wouldn't do. Our sex life improved and we became even closer in all aspects of our marriage. She didn't know why; but we both benefited. There was no doubt about the positive effect on our marriage. I never felt guilty but I definitely knew she would have considered it cheating. It was a calculated gamble that she would never find out. Would I do it again? Yes, without guilt but a lot of nervousness that she might someday find out.
In my case it was a positive but I freely admit that it would have been a disaster if she found out. I also would like to point out that the sessions didn't hurt us financially. If they did, that would have been wrong because then I would have been impacting my wife's life unfairly.
If I turn to the negative side of doing sessions while in a relationship, if you let the sessions overtake your love and physical attention to your partner, then this is really bad. Likewise, if you are taking much needed money to pay for sessions that you cannot afford, that's bad. And finally if you get caught, it's really bad.
So I simply am trying to make the case that doing sessions while in a relationship can be both very good or very bad for the relationship, depending on your circumstances. But I do consider it cheating regardless.
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Interesting topic.
My gf once told me she didn't care if I went say to a gentleman's club and got aroused as long as nothing happened and we'd keep a normal healthy couple life.
That's how I operate with sessions, which are very rare tbh. Go to see some muscle, get lifted/overpowered, have a chat and that's it. I wouldn't consider having sex with them no matter how horny I or her get. I have turned down hj for example. If the woman is stronger than me, as most are (lol) I make it very clear from the begging that I don't want to be "forced". Because of this I won't see some providers where I think I couldn't impose limits on what happens.
So pretty tame compared to others but I can live with this level of "guilt".
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Yes, I definitely do consider sessions to be cheating, but… I do them anyway.
My one concession is FS. I said ‘no’ to one well known sessionette who seemed quite bummed-out - she was obviously in the mood.
But then several years later, another big strong fbb, basically just took me - out of the blue. I guess I could have said ‘no’ (I didn’t)… I guess I could have struggled (I didn’t) - but she was so much stronger than me, it wouldn’t have made any difference anyway. Again, I think she was just in the mood - one minute she was flexing in the bathroom with mirrors on all sides and the next minute I was thrown on the bed and my boxers were ripped off.
Anyway, I digress :) .. ahem, yes it is cheating but I can’t imagine a life without doing sessions… spoken like a true addict…
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Yes, I definitely do consider sessions to be cheating, but… I do them anyway.
My one concession is FS. I said ‘no’ to one well known sessionette who seemed quite bummed-out - she was obviously in the mood.
But then several years later, another big strong fbb, basically just took me - out of the blue. I guess I could have said ‘no’ (I didn’t)… I guess I could have struggled (I didn’t) - but she was so much stronger than me, it wouldn’t have made any difference anyway. Again, I think she was just in the mood - one minute she was flexing in the bathroom with mirrors on all sides and the next minute I was thrown on the bed and my boxers were ripped off.
Anyway, I digress :) .. ahem, yes it is cheating but I can’t imagine a life without doing sessions… spoken like a true addict…
So...did you say "yes"? Because the way you write it makes it seem as though you were practically raped.
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Yes, I definitely do consider sessions to be cheating, but… I do them anyway.
My one concession is FS. I said ‘no’ to one well known sessionette who seemed quite bummed-out - she was obviously in the mood.
But then several years later, another big strong fbb, basically just took me - out of the blue. I guess I could have said ‘no’ (I didn’t)… I guess I could have struggled (I didn’t) - but she was so much stronger than me, it wouldn’t have made any difference anyway. Again, I think she was just in the mood - one minute she was flexing in the bathroom with mirrors on all sides and the next minute I was thrown on the bed and my boxers were ripped off.
Anyway, I digress :) .. ahem, yes it is cheating but I can’t imagine a life without doing sessions… spoken like a true addict…
So...did you say "yes"? Because the way you write it makes it seem as though you were practically raped.
This.
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Ask your girlfriend or wife and see what they say- I’m guessing most won’t ask b/c they are afraid of the answer
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Ask your girlfriend or wife and see what they say- I’m guessing most won’t ask b/c they are afraid of the answer
I'd be dead!
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Ask your girlfriend or wife and see what they say- I’m guessing most won’t ask b/c they are afraid of the answer
This. Doesn't matter if you consider it cheating, but if the SO does.
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It's interesting to see this discussion come back to life, with a wide range of opinions.
I agree with Prophanti in that any degree of sessioning that your significant other deems cheating is cheating, whether you're dating her, living together in a committed relationship, married or any other arrangement.
Some SOs will consider simply looking at photos or chatting/webcamming with another woman to be cheating. Others who understand your appreciation or fetish for muscular women (or strong women or fill in the blank...) might be supportive or at the very least accepting of you engaging in some behaviors around sessioning. Some might be ok, even give you their blessing to session for muscle worship that doesn't involve you touching the other woman, or happy endings or any other sexual things she does to you. Some might be ok with a happy ending but not full sexual activity. Some may sit on either side of the nudity vs clothed discussion.
I guess keeping it a secret is one way to avoid having it declared as cheating by your SO, even if you consider it cheating and are OK with it that way yourself.
Every woman and every situation is unique. Definitely something to proceed with caution about. I'm not even sure what my answer would be.
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I have turned down hj for example. If the woman is stronger than me, as most are (lol) I make it very clear from the begging that I don't want to be "forced". Because of this I won't see some providers where I think I couldn't impose limits on what happens.
Who are these providers who ignore not just a playful No, but a genuinely serious No!
Or is just their strength that makes you nervous, not their reputation?
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I have turned down hj for example. If the woman is stronger than me, as most are (lol) I make it very clear from the begging that I don't want to be "forced". Because of this I won't see some providers where I think I couldn't impose limits on what happens.
Who are these providers who ignore not just a playful No, but a genuinely serious No!
Or is just their strength that makes you nervous, not their reputation?
Yeah I’m confused. The last woman I saw had an ass obsession and wanted to peg me and was strong enough and sexual enough to force me into doing it and I don’t want to and she was cool.
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I have turned down hj for example. If the woman is stronger than me, as most are (lol) I make it very clear from the begging that I don't want to be "forced". Because of this I won't see some providers where I think I couldn't impose limits on what happens.
Who are these providers who ignore not just a playful No, but a genuinely serious No!
Or is just their strength that makes you nervous, not their reputation?
Yeah I’m confused. The last woman I saw had an ass obsession and wanted to peg me and was strong enough and sexual enough to force me into doing it and I don’t want to and she was cool.
If you don't reveal the ID, then Vas will be very sad and moribund . . . come to think of it, so will I. ;)
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My DMs are open lol
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Yeah, not saying it happens, just that I'd be afraid with some for sure! Ahah
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I have turned down hj for example. If the woman is stronger than me, as most are (lol) I make it very clear from the begging that I don't want to be "forced". Because of this I won't see some providers where I think I couldn't impose limits on what happens.
Who are these providers who ignore not just a playful No, but a genuinely serious No!
Or is just their strength that makes you nervous, not their reputation?
Yeah I’m confused. The last woman I saw had an ass obsession and wanted to peg me and was strong enough and sexual enough to force me into doing it and I don’t want to and she was cool.
Pretty sure that would be rape. I've been doing sessions for decades (although not many lately unfortunately) and I've never come close to something like that happening, nor have I heard of it happening in anything other than fan fiction. These women are pros and if the word got out that a sessionette was going to peg you no matter what, that would limit her clientele.
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I've not done that so far but I thought about it. But cause I would make a secret of meeting another girl that satisfies my fetish demands is pretty sketchy. On the one hand there is only a woman l&c me around (no kissing, no sex etc.). On the other hand it's pretty obvious that it arouses me and that this is the reason I set up session.
I thought about to tell my gf about my fetish so she does do that for me. But tbh I feel like this not the same if you don't have a girl like that by your side.
In the end I feel like this is wrong and I won't do it until I'm single again. I think the feelings of guilt could be too hard to handle.